A home is created over time: layered with stories, precious pieces, memories, and lots of love.
Oh yeah, and I want you to read this post not like I'm Puff the Magic Dragon feeding you fluffy, poetic thoughts. But like I'm your friend who's letting you in on the biggest decorating secret behind designing a good home. So listen up.
Too often I see people rushing through buying a home, rushing an architect, builder, designer through the process, filling it up, and not being thoughtful with the design process..
We want things instantly. But who can blame us? Siri, find Starbucks...NOW.
We rush to pick paint colors for an entire house on a cloudy day because the contractor hounding us to have them by Monday. We plan a party and then rush to the nearest Pier1 to get dining chairs we don't even like. I always think of what my grandmother would say in a situation like this and I am pretty sure she would kindly ask her friends if she could borrow their dining chairs for the evenings' events. Somehow in that sentence she turned into a lady of Downton Abbey but nevertheless!! Tis' better to have an empty room than a room that lacks character.
We need to be more patient and thoughtful with our homes. They cannot be instant. For a home to feel lived in it needs to evolve and unfold over time. Most of these pieces come in the form of details and accessories- artwork, books, photographs, a bowl of seaglass your kids found on the beach one year, that one door you had painted red because you like the unexpected. The house needs to show your sense of humor, what you treasure, a gathering of all things personal.
In my job, which is very psychological, I try to coax my clients this way and that- helping them create a canvas or a comfortable home where they can express themselves. I help select things that will be dear to them and fit the story of their home. I don't buy things that necessarily fit the mold of what I like- I look at a room full of antiques through the eyes of my client. It's a sixth sense, ok? I see dead people. Big woop.
A friend sent me an article recently that really resonated with me.
A discovered flat in Paris was found, 70 years later, untouched....
The owner of this apartment, Mrs. De Florian fleed the city just before the rumblings of World War II broke out in Europe. She closed up her shutters and left for the South of France, never to return to the city again. Seven decades later she passed away at the age of 91. It was only when her heirs enlisted professionals to make an inventory of the Parisian apartment she left behind, that this time capsule was finally unlocked.
"The team that had the honor of opening what must have been a very stiff old lock for the first time in 70 years, likened the experience to ‘stumbling into the castle of sleeping beauty’. The smell of dust, the cobwebs, the silence, was overwhelming; a once in a lifetime experience." *to read the full article from MessyNessyChic click here- it's fascinating
So, here's my challenge for the week. (if you're new here don't be alarmed. I've never used the term challenge and/or watched The Biggest Loser.)
Think of your home as a time capsule. Rooms that are meaningful to you and pieces that are precious to YOU and your family. For whatever reason. Not just something that looks good in a magazine.
If these parisien time capsule discoverers (with their dashing good looks!) were to come upon your untouched home in 70 years, what would they find? Would it reflect your family and your story? What would you want them to see?
Siri, Chew on that.
*top 3 photographs above were taken by me; personal spaces that have evolved over time and that I have grown to cherish.
* would LOVE any thoughts/ comments below on your time capsule home- I know I will!